One of my favorite movies is called “French Kiss”. The main character, Kate, has to face a lot of her fears, and her knight in (slightly dented) shining armor is Luc. This is one of their first conversations:
Kate: Do you believe in love? The kind that lasts forever?
Luc: I loved my mother.
Kate: No, everybody loves their mother. Even people who hate their mothers love their mothers. The question is, one man meant for one woman. That is the question.
Luc: But it is not an interesting question. It is the question of a little girl who believes in fairy tales.
That last line is the one that goes through my head when someone says, “Ok, I want a reading, but don’t tell me anything bad.”
I understand the inclination – I do. Tarot readings are freaky by nature, and they can be scary if you don’t know what to expect. Just like anything new, you are informed by your history. If you grew up hearing that tarot cards are the devil’s business, I’m going to make you a little jumpy. If you heard that I gave a reading that was so accurate it scared someone- that fear is now part of your expectations.
Beyond that – beyond the re-education and nerves – there is this tendency for some clients to slap their hands over their ears and say LA LA LA! JUST THE GOOD STUFF! I could to that. I could give you a reading that left out the bad things and only mentioned the good. I could – it’s pretty easy. It would be crap reading, though. It would have no depth, little honesty, and no integrity – but it would be pretty and shiny.
The thing about readings – and about fairy tales, for that matter – is that they’re not all rainbows and sparkles. Bad things happen in life, and our responses to those things shapes who we are and where we’re headed. Getting a head’s up about some of these bad things can give you tools to defend yourself or to prepare. As Ani D. says, “Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right”.