Care and Keeping of Your Empath – Emotional

I heard something on a podcast a few months ago, and I can’t get it out of my head. Someone said, “You don’t have to believe every stupid thought that goes through your head.” This resonated with me and I sat with it for a while. In my head, I heard “You also don’t have to feel every dumb emotion that goes through your heart.” Wait, what? Just because an emotion runs right into me, I don’t have to internalize it? ‘Scuse me? You mean I’ve been flying off the handle for no reason?  If something frustrating happens in the …

Care and Keeping of Your Empath – Physical

This month, we’re going to talk about the Care and Keeping of your Empath. This can be you or someone in your orbit. After a long, long, long time of dealing with being SO SENSITIVE to the people around me, I’ve figured out some tips about keeping my energy separate from everyone else’s, and how to keep their energy from knocking the air out of me. Also how to keep other people from eating you energetically. The first thing is basic health. If you’re strong, you have better boundaries and are more grounded. Now, I’m strong-ish with my dumb asthma …

How do I get more confident with my readings?

It took me ten years to read without my book. Even then, the only reason I stopped reading with it is because I fuckin’ forgot it. BUT if I hadn’t forgotten it, I wouldn’t have developed the confidence to read folks without it until much later. It’s difficult to state that you can do this, you know? You’re sitting in front of someone, asking them to trust what you have to say about their life. That’s hard. The thing is, it’s SUPPOSED to be hard. But I’ve got some advice for you. This is someone’s life. You can’t wing it. …

How do you give someone bad news?

When you give a reading, you are going to have to learn how to say no. In the past thirty years, I’ve told people that they were going to get divorced, that they would lose their jobs, that they would die. This is serious stuff, tarot reading. We talk to people who feel scared and broken and fragile. We have a responsibility to do this with care and empathy. We are NOT their mother, though.  There is a way to be empathetic to your querent/client without swimming around in all of their emotions. You can give a good, thorough, and …

How do you choose a Tarot deck?

Hey, there! If you grew up in a place like I did, tarot decks were scarce. I saw my first one at 14, and didn’t see another until college. There was no internet (gasp!) til I was in my twenties and I wasn’t a part of the tarot community until about 6 years ago.  Now, there seems to be the opposite problem – decks are everywhere!  It can be a bit overwhelming, for sure, especially when you’re a beginner.  Here are some deck-hunting resources that you might enjoy. In Person sources! Go to your local bookstore and new age hippie …

How do you do a reading over the phone or through email?

As you might maybe know, I’ve been reading the cards in PERSON for 30 years. I didn’t start with this Ms. Cleo phone reading business until about 15 years ago. I didn’t think it would work. I mean, people asked me how I did in person readings, and the answers I had for that ran from “My intuition is talking to your intuition and the cards are a tool that facilitates that.” to “Fuck if I know.” A reading over the phone seemed impossible. I believe that folks had their own energy, and that by reading for them long distance …

How do you do a reading?

This month, we’re going to talk about tarot basics. A lot of my students have never touched a tarot deck before we sit down together, and I’ve compiled some of their questions together for you guys. Feel free to send any questions you have. The biggest question that I get is HOW do you do a reading. Not spiritually or emotionally, but actually physically doing the reading. I’ve broken down how I do a reading below. Just remember that the way you do readings is entirely up to you. This is for in-person readings. I’m going to cover phone and …

Tarot For Troubled Times | Book Review

I got an advanced peek at Shaheen Miro and Theresa Reed’s new book, Tarot for Troubled Times. I got it at a time in which a lot of my clients and friends were feeling stuck or broken. As if they were suffocating. I am not a big fan of ‘love and light’ as a response to brokenness, because I think that should come after. After the reckoning. After the healing. That kind of sparkly energy is annoying as hell when you’re just trying to get through the day without bursting into tears at Target. This book speaks to people in …

Queer Tarot Cards and the #TarotoftheQTPOC

If I could rewrite (IPPY Award and double COVR Award winning book whaaaaaat) Kitchen Table Tarot again, I would spend more time talking about the importance of seeing your face in the cards. Since that book was published in 2017, SO MANY decks have come out featuring all kinds of folks that are noticeably not all straight and not all white.  So here is a list of queer decks that are available. You can also follow the hashtag started by Asali on Twitter of #tarotoftheQTPOC. This features decks with queer folks and people of color AND queer people of color. …

Queer Zine & Comic Artist Kami | Interview

So, there I am, fiddling about on Twitter instead of writing my new book (like ya do) when I saw this amazing fan art tarot card of Jared Harris. I know you know who Jared Harris is. He’s died horribly in some of the best movies and television shows out there. He stars in a show called “The Terror”, which I can never watch because I am a giant chicken. I’m sure it’s an amazing show, however, because the reviews are great and the art inspired BY this show is absolutely breathtaking. I saw someone tag a card, and then …