Finding a Person

Hey, guys, I get a lot of calls from folks who are looking for their Person. In order to find THEIR Person, it is sometimes necessary to try on some other folks to see if they fit. Dating can be absolutely awful – trust, I have some stories. It can also be a complete delight, and over the years, I’ve helped clients with some advice that I’m going to sum up for you. So, if you’re looking for your Person, or People, these might help out.  Don’t confuse ‘alone’ with ‘lonely’. Two different things. It could be that you don’t …

Will They Come Back?

Hey, friends, This month, I’m going to touch on love and loss. I have a lot of readings that are for folks who still feel a connection to people that they’ve had relationships with in the past – either friendships or romantic connections. The problem is that when it’s over, there is still a thread of connection there. What do you do with that? Should you do anything? Think of the connections that other people have on you as cords coming off of your body. One for your partner, one for each kid, parents, friends, co-workers….imagine all of those coming …

New Year – Same Old Folks

Hey, guys, So, along with this new year thing, I’m going to talk about something I’ve noticed in a lot of readings lately. Folks are expecting other people to change for them and their needs. This is not working out for a bunch of reasons. The main one though, is that my clients don’t have good boundaries. Unless you’re raising the people that you’re in conflict with, it’s not your job to change them. If you’re in a relationship and say, “He just keeps doing X and he won’t stop. I keep trying and trying and we fight and I …

New Year, Same (wonderful) You

Guys, I have to say, I’m feeling a little belligerent this year. I am completely over the push to change myself at the beginning of the year. I think it’s disrespectful to all of the stuff that came before, and the challenges that are still waiting for me. I don’t want to hold myself to an arbitrary standard when it comes to change. I want to change when I’m ready. FURTHERMORE (Auntie Melissa is having feelings) I think I’m pretty goddamn great the way I am. Of course I have things to work on, and sure, I have goals, but …

Sacred Beauty from Mellissae Lucia

I got to meet Lucia (her last name) at a conference in Portland and immediately fell in love. She’s just vibrant, and her new deck, Santos and Signs, matches that beautiful energy. You can find more information about the deck below, as well as a course that she’s offering! This is a special person who lives her art, and I can’t recommend it (or Lucia!) enough. The new Santos and Signs—Holy Intermediaries for Sacred Journeys divination deck are modern holy cards for all your pilgrimages of the soul. Whether your quests are within or without, these portable icons offer both earthly and …

Care & Keeping of Your Empath During Readings

Hey, guys, Not surprisingly, lots of empaths are pulled to tarot and oracle cards, or other forms of divination. Part of being sensitive in this way is looking for tools to make the emotions you’re soaking up make sense.  I have very clear memories of sitting straight up in bed while all alone and saying, “Why the hell am I so sad?” Whammo. Sometimes it comes out of nowhere. You are the most open to being an emotional sponge while you’re doing the actual reading. With the cards, you have created a connection with the person you’re reading, and the …

Care and Keeping of Your Empath – Emotional

I heard something on a podcast a few months ago, and I can’t get it out of my head. Someone said, “You don’t have to believe every stupid thought that goes through your head.” This resonated with me and I sat with it for a while. In my head, I heard “You also don’t have to feel every dumb emotion that goes through your heart.” Wait, what? Just because an emotion runs right into me, I don’t have to internalize it? ‘Scuse me? You mean I’ve been flying off the handle for no reason?  If something frustrating happens in the …

Care and Keeping of Your Empath – Physical

This month, we’re going to talk about the Care and Keeping of your Empath. This can be you or someone in your orbit. After a long, long, long time of dealing with being SO SENSITIVE to the people around me, I’ve figured out some tips about keeping my energy separate from everyone else’s, and how to keep their energy from knocking the air out of me. Also how to keep other people from eating you energetically. The first thing is basic health. If you’re strong, you have better boundaries and are more grounded. Now, I’m strong-ish with my dumb asthma …

How do I get more confident with my readings?

It took me ten years to read without my book. Even then, the only reason I stopped reading with it is because I fuckin’ forgot it. BUT if I hadn’t forgotten it, I wouldn’t have developed the confidence to read folks without it until much later. It’s difficult to state that you can do this, you know? You’re sitting in front of someone, asking them to trust what you have to say about their life. That’s hard. The thing is, it’s SUPPOSED to be hard. But I’ve got some advice for you. This is someone’s life. You can’t wing it. …

How do you give someone bad news?

When you give a reading, you are going to have to learn how to say no. In the past thirty years, I’ve told people that they were going to get divorced, that they would lose their jobs, that they would die. This is serious stuff, tarot reading. We talk to people who feel scared and broken and fragile. We have a responsibility to do this with care and empathy. We are NOT their mother, though.  There is a way to be empathetic to your querent/client without swimming around in all of their emotions. You can give a good, thorough, and …