Independence from Anger

Hey, guys,

There is a lot to be pissed off about right now. I won’t list the stuff, as you literally just have to look at any place on the internet to get the idea. 

I keep getting readings where folks are looking for some kind of outlet or channel for that rage. 

The most important thing that I can tell you is that your anger is justified. I grew up thinking that anger was bad. That ‘good kids’ didn’t lose their tempers, and that I should be quiet and behave. 

What I needed was an outlet for my anger. I needed to stop shoving it down and pretending that I was fine. I was NOT fine. I learned how to fake it and smile through all of that anger. It’s a painful process, swallowing rage. It hurts you and it hurts your growth and joy.

Although, in my head, I would love to give people that piss me off a good kicking, I can’t in good faith suggest violence. 

Here are some things you can do to get the rage out of you. If it stays in too long, it’s like sucking the marrow from a bone. And then making a necklace of the bones and rattling around in them like a ghoul. Once it’s gone, you can move forward with clarity and purpose.

1. Donate money to a cause that will piss off the people who pissed you off. 
2. Be loud and vocal – even when you’re uncomfortable. Use your privilege as a shield for those who don’t have it. 
3. Make phone calls, send emails, march. Do the thing that you’re able to be sure your voice is heard.
4. And if none of these work-  here is a wee magic spell you can use. Summarized from my book Kitchen Table Magic that’s coming out in a few months.

I AM SO ANGRY SPELL

Find a jar or something that’s made of glass. Use a sharpie to write all of the things that you’re angry about on the glass.

Go someplace that you can scream, and scream. Get it all out.

When you’re finished screaming, smash the glass into a recycling bin (don’t litter, goddamnit) Put all of your anger into the spell and smash it to pieces.

Next step? Go see or do something beautiful. Plant a tree or some flowers. Take a nap.

Figure out your next action step. Remember, the spell is only as strong as your actions and intentions. 

You might have to repeat this a few times. You might even need to light a candle to hold your intent. Or write a letter to whatever has sparked your anger and burn it. Let the ashes blow away. 

Remember that anger is only productive if you USE it. Otherwise, it hurts you more than those who made you suffer.

Take good care, 

Xoxo Lis