“And I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.” – Kurt Vonnegut

I was talking to my amazing friend, Kristen, last week. It was her birthday. (Happy birthday!) We started talking about what you do when your dreams and wishes come come true.  We all know what it’s like before that moment. I’ll use my first book as an example. I’ve wanted to be an author since I was 6 years old. I was discouraged because it wasn’t a secure and steady job, so I didn’t pursue it in earnest until I was 40. I know what disappointment in regard to dreams is like – it got turned down twice before it …

I do what I want. – Eric Cartman

My life is changing, kittens, and I need to change along with it.  Until Book the Second is finished, I can’t do in-person readings. I have to write. I have to spend time with my family. I have to stop stressing out about trying to please everyone and take good care of myself. And I have to finish this amazing book.    Do not be sad! You can still get phone readings, email readings AND Element readings (by phone). One other change – my turnaround rate for email readings is one week from date of purchase. If you would like …

Black lives matter, goddamnit.

I met with a client this week. She is a black woman. I am a white woman. This is important later. Her home situation was becoming untenable, and I told her she needed to get all of her things from her home – where two relatives were staying – and move them to her apartment as soon as possible. I told her to get some sage and stones and some other stuff to help her prepare to walk into that house and get her shit and leave. She did. She got emotionally and spiritually ready, walked in to get her …

Happy birthday, Monkey!

To Monkey, I dreamed about you since I was 15 years old. I had this recurring dream of a little girl with dimples and curly hair. She was wearing pink footie pajamas with the feet cut off. She poked her head out of a doorway and said, “What you doin’, Mama?”. I said, “Nothin’, Monkey, what you doin’?”  She said, “Nuffin!” and ran down the hall to me. Over and over in my dreams. Curly hair. Dimples. Nuffin! I got really sick when I was about 6 months pregnant. Diabetes insipidus – but not diagnosed until I was already in …

Now that this is over, we can ship them all back to Mexico. – My Mexican-American husband’s co-worker today

So, that one guy won the election, and the KKK and apparently this asshole that works with my husband are celebrating. I spent today a little differently. I cried a lot. I called or texted or emailed my transgendered and queer friends and family to tell them I loved them and that I was here. I told my kids we had to rise up like Dumbledore’s Army and keep being kind. Being brave. Speaking up. But not today. Today – November 9th – was a day of being sad and feeling small. Tomorrow will be a little better and I’ll …

I was blessed with the gift of insight into what the meaning of life is. It is being of service to others. The “other” is us. – Dr. James Doty

I remember hearing a long time ago that “The Buddha said to be kind to others. That includes us, too.” I often tell this to clients who are neglecting their self-care or denigrating their self-worth. Oftentimes, these same people are caretakers to others and don’t quite realize how much harder it is to care for someone else while our blood pressure is up. It’s hard to be a good anything when your constant state of being is fight or flight, your tongue is permanently stuck to the roof of your mouth (that’s not normal, btw. It’s a stress response), and …

Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind. ― Henry James

I would be willing to bet that most Republicans are as appalled by their presidential candidate as I am. I grew up with Republicans, and most of them are honest, hard-working, kind people. My parents are Republicans, and as far as I know, they’ve never grabbed a woman without her permission. They aren’t racist, xenophobic shitbags. They aren’t as vulgar as their daughter, and they are kind, good people. I would be willing to bet that most of the people voting for the Democratic candidate disagree with her on some level, or have a problem with her past to some …

If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath. ― Amit Ray

I have anxiety. I have had anxiety for a really long time, but I never realized that it was a problem until one day I chewed through my lip. I didn’t even realize I had done so until blood ran down my chin. When I’m really anxious, I have some tics that come out. I rock back and forth. I scratch my leg or arm or hand or head rhythmically. My brain sends thoughts in circles. Sometimes it’s like chanting. “Oh no, oh no, oh no ohno ohno ohno…” Sometimes it’s lists of things that I have done or could …

Beware the fierce woman.

My Girl Child is in junior high. It’s still a breeding ground for mean girls and boys. My kid has had the same bully since the second grade, and they followed her to junior high. We talked about how to deal with this kid, have talked to the school, etc. After yet another slight, I told Girl Child that the next time this kid messes with her, to stick her finger in the face of the Oppressor and tell her to Fuck OFF. As loud as she can. With her shoulders back and her chin turned up. Fuck off. (then …

The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. -Mark Twain

Sometimes, I have a lot of readings in a bunch that address the same issue. I then write about it so I can get it out of my brain. This is one of those articles. I work a fairly robust 40 hours a week at a challenging job. I’ve got two curious, wonderful kids, a partner whom I adore and love spending time with. Two dogs, two cats, a tortoise (Phil) and an army of good friends. And this website. And a book in progress, and one being released in April 2017 (that is available for preorder here, btw.) and …