A to Z Challenge: Write Every Day and Hello, It’s Me

It’s official – April’s come to an end, and so has the A to Z challenge. If you’ve been meaning to catch up, here’s the last handful of blog posts I wrote as part of this challenge. U is for UnfazedV is for VocalW is for WitchX is for quiXoticY is for YouthsZ is for Zapped Weirdly, I’ve done dozens of interviews of other people but have never taken this questionnaire myself. Weird! I’m generally not a fan of talking about myself, so you can find podcasts of me doing that here, here, and here. I’m a reader, a writer, …

Z is for Zapped #atozchallenge

I feel like every year, I write about how to take care of yourself so you can do better readings. I do think it’s important, though, so I’m going to make a little list for you. Readings can be exhausting if you don’t take care of yourself. Check your energy before and after your readings and make adjustments if necessary. Use crystals, rocks, incense, candles, reiki, etc. – whatever tools will help you – to protect yourself and your energy. Be sure to put your cards back in order or charge the under the sun or the moon when they …

Y is for Youths #atozchallenge

I did a podcast with my friends, Andrew and Rose, in which we talked about pop culture and tarot and spirituality and Big Trouble in Little China.  One of the things that I said was that I hope that in 40 years, everything I write about tarot becomes irrelevant. I really do. I don’t mean this in a self-deprecating way, but in that the core of tarot is rock solid, but that the means of interpretation of the tarot is ever-changing, and that’s exactly what I love about it. My son is 12, and his idea of the Hierophant is …

X is for QuiXotic #atozchallenge

It is ok to pull a card for your day and count on the good things to come. It is ok to read your horoscope and let it lift or prepare you for the month. It is ok to put crystals down in ways that make you feel happy. It is ok to believe in magic. It is ok to decide that things will or will not work for you. it is ok to use your intent to launch your life into another direction. It is ok to assign personalities to your tarot decks. And it’s ok to not do …

W is for Witch #atozchallenge

You don’t have to be witchy to read tarot cards. And you don’t have to read tarot cards just because you’re witchy. The two things often crisscross, but I know readers who are Muslim, Christian and Jewish. I know witches who think that tarot cards are creepy.  I think it’s important to let young readers know (YOUTHS!) that you don’t have to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Last year, nearly every new agey post was pastel colored with crystals. Like 10 years ago, everything was maroon with dark eyeliner. Next year, who knows. Tarot is probably due for an …

V is for Vocal #atozchallenge

There is a very interesting debate raging at the moment about the nature of sin, for example,” said Oats. “And what do they think? Against it, are they?” said Granny Weatherwax. “It’s not as simple as that. It’s not a black and white issue. There are so many shades of gray.” “Nope.” “Pardon?” “There’s no grays, only white that’s got grubby. I’m surprised you don’t know that. And sin, young man, is when you treat people as things. Including yourself. That’s what sin is. “It’s a lot more complicated than that . . .” “No. It ain’t. When people say things are a lot more complicated …

U is for Unfazed #atozchallenge

When you get a reading, you are best served by being empathetic, not sympathetic. Brene Brown has a whole amazing thing about this here. Basically, you want to say, “i’m sorry that this happened” to your client without feeling their pain or being in crisis with them.  It’s the whole thing about putting your oxygen mask on before your kids. You can’t take care of people when you’re flailing and you can’t do good readings when they sink you along with the client. You have to practice this detached method of reading because generally, tarot readers are sympathetic folks. We’re …

T is for Tinker #atozchallenge

After working so hard to learn all 78 card meanings (and reversals, if you’re down with that) and what they mean in each position AND in relation to other cards, it’s really easy to get into a rut with your readings.  After you’re comfortable, I encourage you to completely make up spreads, do readings with on card or thirty, and shuffle mid-reading just to see what happens. I used the Celtic Cross spread for at least 15 years rigidly. Then I started reading it sideways. I don’t know why – it just made more sense that way. Then I turned …

Write Every Day: A to Z Challenge and Hello Jake!

Hey, guys! We’re continuing with our A to Z challenge, and meeting the crew this week. You can catch up on some of the daily A to Z posts below: H is for HumdrumI is for IgnorantJ is for JankyK is for Kitchen Table TarotL is for LoversM is for MoonN is for Newbie And on to more of the crew! Next up is Jake. I’ve known him since he was a kid, and one of the first emails I got when I sent my first newsletter was from Jake. It said something like, “Hi, Aunt Melissa. This looks terrible. …

S is for Schmooze #atozchallenge

Hello, MELISSA CYNOVA,  I greatly admire your website LITTLE FRX TRROT and go to it often. You have a good site.  LISTEN I have a new deck/book/website coming out soon and I would love for you to promote it on your blog. I KNOW – you have no idea who I am, and when you check with your tarot buddies, you’ll find that I’ve sent this same email to twenty of them with the name changed. that’s how disingenuous I am. I do realize that if I took the time to build honest relationships in this business, I’d get further …